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[quote=Anonymous]Hmmmm OP. I see a lot of blaming your wife for this in your post. This part in particular rubbed me the wrong way:

"we just wanted different things in life - I travel for work and am ambitious - she wanted a 1950's husband. I am very interested in politics and the arts - she avoids these subjects. I try to be a firm but loving parent, she disciplines like a prison guard."

You're not giving any nods to her side at all. From her perspective, she may not see "likes to travel for work and be ambitious," she may see "is never home and values his job at the expense of his family." You say she avoids the topics of politics and the arts, maybe she has different interests. Your spouse cannot have everything in common with you.  You say she is a prison guard, maybe she tries to be the disciplinarian since you're always traveling for work and you think you can come home and be the fun one.

I just find it odd that your three reasons for divorcing her explain your preference as so obviously right and hers as so negative. You could have phrased those much less combatively. And I guess you'd never be able to explain the whole story in a few paragraphs, but what I see here is a man leaving his wife and kids because he values his job and his ambition as his persona over an image of involved family man.

I hope that's not true, OP, and it does sound like you tried. I would love to hear your wife's side of this though. Why did you file and not her?[/quote]

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