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[quote=Anonymous]OP here, thanks for the thoughts. I should refine my language—in terms of disabled. MIL walks with a cane and is worried about falling, but the disabled part will be her shoulder (she is getting a total shoulder replacement) so she will not be able to lift anything with that arm for 6 weeks which also means buttons, zippers, meal prep,etc. But she will be able to navigate, slowly, the stairs with help. We just put a bar in the shower, and a stool in there and we managed it yesterday—I stayed in the bathroom with her and helped her dry and dress-- but we’ll see how it goes after surgery. 
DH and I talked about the logistics of post-op care and so far this is what we have worked out: doctor will strive to get MIL in a rehab facility for 2-3 weeks after the surgery. This will take the worst of the burden off us, when she needs constant care and will be in pain, etc. But then she’ll be with us 6 -10 weeks after that with limited mobility and lots of needs. 
For phase 2, we will look into a home health aide once a day after that to help bathe, feed, and generally do what needs to be done, and if her insurance plus medicare do not cover, we will hire someone. She has enough money to help defray some of those costs, I think and certainly would want to. We may need to hire someone anyway to take her to physical therapy during the week. 
Thirdly, DH agreed that we would do a combo of lets dish and another meal delivery plan for a bulk of meals for the next 2 months. I just can’t deal with it and don’t want to eat peanut butter sandwiches.  We will also ask our cleaning lady to come once a week and get some babysitters on the weekends so I can get some work done then as well (or go to the gym, etc). 
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