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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love my MIL, so no complaints about her character. Bu....t its a guest for 3 months! Plus, she needs serious surgery and can't do it where she lives (alone). She is going to stay with us, in our finished basement (which has a full bath, etc). She will need help getting dressed, showering, can't lift anything, and of course we will have to cook, drive to appointments (she will need to go twice a week, which means someone has to take that time off work, and neither of us can do it) and basically make sure she's comfortable. So now we have 2 little kids and one invalid to take care of.  I feel like we need some outside help, but DH thinks I'm exaggerating and it will not be a big deal. However , this is the WORST time for this for me--I have a crazy load at work (full-time, with major deadlines next 2 months and need to work nights, weekends), 2 little kids (toddler, baby) one still waking up at night to nurse, longish commute and DH is starting a new job so can't take off much time.  I basically can't handle our life right now--  I am already the one to help her shower and dress every day, on top of which I plan the meals, cook, shop for kids, do all our bills and finances, most of the laundry and tidying (which is enormous since no one else picks up after themselves). I just feel like I am going to lose it after the surgery.

Do I insist we hire someone? see how it goes? run away with my toddler's gymnastics instructor? have you been in this position?

I know its the right thing to do. I just want to know the right way to do it.

and, while this is not totally related, I feel a little annoyed that DH takes it for granted that his mother will be here for 3 months and I will be doing a lot of the caring for her, since when my mother is here, he basically tries to limit her visits to under 5 days and is kind of a dick to her at times (granted she is more annoying that MIL is). [/quote]

OP, I have not read all the posts.  Does your MIL have a home health care policy?  Do you know the waiting period (they vary)?  I would have her make use of the policy and get a home health aid in for her.[/quote]

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