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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's really not that hard. Just do stuff the less wealthy friend can afford. Host each other for meals at home (if its your second or third home, fine), go to local events, affordable restaurants, breweries, etc. Make it easy for them to reciprocate. Enjoy each other's company.

I don't expect my better-off friends to pay for me when we go out, and definitely not give gifts or loans, but I do expect them not to put me in a difficult position by thinking only expensive stuff is fun. [/quote]

+1 Agree.

Like attracts like, OP.  If you are (truly) down to earth, then you should attract the same.  DH and I both grew up in wealthy areas, many of our friends have always had money. Some of our friends have not, and remember what life was like back when, which is actually fun. We have lifelong friends (30+ years), and more recent friends (15+ years) and even some that are more recent.

DH and I were not wealthy, and we each paid for our own undergrad, grad, professional schools, wedding, house, cars, day care, you name it. No parental help, not even help with our children or babysitting, which is fine.  DH and I have no expectations that anything should be "easy" or "free" or even "low cost". No one is bailing us out. We have little in common with those who expect things from people (especially monetarily). We are apprehensive about those who are one way and tend to use phrases like "let the rich friend treat you" (we have heard it) and are usually expecting handouts, it seems.  It is a weird feeling, as if you are being tapped for their next ask, and it is unsettling.  We don't consider them to be friends.

We tend to appreciate, and probably favor, those who are independent, self driven, and have truly created their own paths.  We know of some pretty colossal first hand stories. We try to stay away from people who are easily impressed.

We tend to be frugal, because we know that there are no grandparents to pay when college time comes, for example. We drive nice but older cars and keep them in shape (one example). We tend to do our own thing, and have our own enjoyments, and spend our leisure time doing fun, cheap things. We try to remember what being grateful truly means.

We do have a dear, longterm couple friend who gets great seats to something who has asked us a few times, and are stumped how to repay them, because they have truly (really) everything, but we want to do something nice without making a show of it. (As a side note if anyone has ideas, that would be much appreciated, as we are out of our realm). [/quote]

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