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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are no answers that are acceptable to gentle parenting, OP. My two year old is the same and we’ve never solved it after a year of coming and parenting classes. We just bribe with dye free M&Ms now.[/quote]

I am the PP who suggested figuring out what you can let go.  We make our kids do certain things, but we pick our battles.  The point of my post was identifying where you can compromise or let go.  Kids have very little control over their day and routines and we are happy to make them feel like they have a say for stuff that's not essential.  I'm not sure if you were responding to me, but if so, that's what we try and do.[/quote]

Was not responding to you and did not  read your post. Just wanted OP to know some kids are extraordinarily stubborn and will never peacefully get with the program of doing reasonable things parents ask them to do. Ever. No matter how solid the routine is. I’ve been disappointed to find that no gentle parenting resources acknowledge this is a possible situation even after months and years of consistency.

M&Ms get us baths, non-screaming car  rides, potty training, tooth brushing, and all other necessities of life.[/quote]

I’m not sure what you consider gentle parenting but even the commonly cited examples like Janet Lansbury will tell you that sometimes you just have to step in and take over and make your kid do something. If you’re looking for a parenting method where the kids never fight you then I don’t think you’ll find one. [/quote]

I’m looking for a parenting method where the kids don’t ALWAYS fight. Mine fought every single diaper change until potty training. Still fights every transition, every no, every nap, every putting on shoes, every “come here,” every tooth brushing, every hair washing, every getting in the car seat, etc. Physically making your 30 pound screaming, fighting toddler to do things 10-15 times a day is exhausting and terrible. It does not feel like a solution.[/quote]

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