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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry for your loss. I am not in this situation but I have friends that were. It is similar to a divorce in a way. There is no right time universally, it is whenever you feel it is right. Who cares about the pictures in your home? The potential men should not be in your home…[/quote]

OP here. Thanks for the sympathy. I think you’re reading too literally into my exaggerated metaphor (“burn” the pictures of my spouse). All I meant, I guess, was I’m afraid that any partner will be put off by the emotional “relationship” I still have with my late husband. Let’s not put the cart before the horse by making assumptions about when I would or wouldn’t have any future partner into my home — I’m just trying to figure out how to take the first steps here![/quote]

NP - with respect to the first few dates, I don't think many will think about it.  I'm sure some will swipe left, or whatever the direction is, if they see you're a widow, but for most men, if you're fun, interesting and attractive there won't be any obstacles.

It may become an issue as you start to get serious with someone - you'll have to find someone who is self-confident enough to accept your continued (and likely forever) attachment to your first husband, without being so self-confident that he's a narcissistic d-bag.  I can honestly say that in my 30s, I wasn't self-confident enough to be that guy - I am now, but that has a lot to do with my wife of 20 years.

I'm sorry for your loss, and good luck.  [/quote]

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