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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, hearing negative stuff about your child is always going to impact you. And it’s not hearing the stuff that is impacting your relationship with your child, it’s the behaviors. Stop blaming the school and focus on what you are doing to figure out the issues. My relationship with my DD improved dramatically when she was better able to manage her emotions (medication and therapy - also took a couple of years). It’s a marathon. A couple of things - my DD also has some flags raised early on and I ignored them, thinking she might still outgrow the behaviors. DD also at an independent school and things escalated quickly in K (hyperactive and social/verbal aggression, also low frustration tolerance). Guidance counselor involved almost daily, DD disrupting the class. I almost never got phone calls, but school knew we were on it and we ended up medicating after 9 months of therapy alone not working. DD has ADHD (and also learning disorder, which probably didn’t help with attention). So things probably are pretty bad if an independent school is calling - I only have gotten like 2 phone calls from the school and DD has been pretty poorly behaved over 3 years (thing are finally better this year!). At my kids independent school, they really try to work with you, but the burden is on the parents to do outside therapies. But the school gives a lot of grace to kids who are already there - I have seen some pretty appalling behavior (including from my own child) and the school does their best to handle it. They do draw a hard line when a child gets physical with another child. You either aren’t communicating with the school what you are doing to try to solve the problem, or the school thinks you aren’t doing enough. If you think you are doing enough, then you should take their calling all the time as a sign this school is not the right fit for your child. I know three families who have left our school when the parents’ realized their kids behavior was not a good fit for the school - in Teo cases it was untreated ADHD and in one the child was on the spectrum. [/quote] I disagree with the notion that the problem is being caused solely by the child. In my painful experience, poor communication by the school that gives the sense that the parent is to blame or that the school is unable to cope can be extremely distressing and significantly undermine the parent’s ability to work with the child and the school. But I agree that nonstop negative communication from the school at some point should be taken at face value as indicating that the school cannot/will not cope with your child. [/quote]
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