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[quote=Anonymous]Look, you come across as looking down on your kid. You say your kid is impressed by displays of wealth. The implication is that you think such displays are unworthy. You say your kid is judgmental of you but you come across as very judgmental of your kid and what’s important to your kid. You also describe your kid as “rotten” and that is pretty disrespectful. Are you sure your kid is not partly reacting to the way he is being treated? Are you being dismissive of him and his point of view? 
When I was a teenager I wanted a Porsche. My parents did not tell me that was a stupid display of wealth. They thought it was perfectly understandable that I would want a Porsche. It’s a cool car! We didn’t have such cars, as an adult I do not want such a car, but the fact that I briefly wanted one as a teenager did not mean I was fundamentally rotten.
I really think the source of your kid’s attitude towards you may be your attitude towards your kid.
Just the fact that you’re thinking about canceling your summer plans because your kid is not acting the way you want. Do you want a relationship with your child? Do you want to get closer? Do you think the way to get closer is to *cancel family trips* and blame it on them? Would you feel closer to your spouse if your spouse said they didn’t want to go on a trip with you until you improved your attitude? 
I’m just not feeling a lot of unconditional love emanating from you and children are very sensitive to the lack of that. They will respond accordingly, and you can blame it on them, but I don’t think that’s what the source of it is.
The next time they expressed an interest in an ostentatious display of wealth, why don’t you ask them what color they would get if they could buy it, and why they like it over some other style, and express a wish that they could have it. Join them in their world for a little while, rather than just disparaging it, and maybe they will be less disparaging of your world.[/quote]

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