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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with 11:59. You're rationalizing his disrespectful treatment of you because he's made it too difficult & painful to challenge it. That's what it amounts to, no matter how you try to explain it away.

Sorry, OP, I've been through this before where I was in your position. In my experience, tolerating dysfunction is a mistake. It only leads to more dysfunction, never less. It's in your best interests to stop tolerating this behavior.

And, by the way, I'm a child of a massively dysfunctional family - NPD & SPD abounds - and I would not put anyone in the position in which your husband has put you, nor would I (again) tolerate being put in this position. Being the child of a dysfunctional family is not an excuse to treat people poorly. Ever.[/quote]

Not to highjack but what did you find helpful in moving toward healthier behavior? NP here. I had a similar family and am now divorcing an ex who was far more unstable than I realized. Ex's treatment of the kids is also shocking at times. Sounds like you are in a really good place re: boundaries and relationships, I'd appreciate any advice you may have.[/quote]

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