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[quote=Anonymous]   OP here. Thanks for the input. I hear what you are saying and I will think about it more.

My husband treats me very well except for when it comes to how he deals with his family. That is our issue and I guess I got sick of fighting it. It was MUCH worse when we saw them more and I was the bad guy. Now, I don't deal with them much, so the peace and transquility are worth it to me especially knowing my kids won't grow up around this drama.

We tried counseling and the counselor had so many of her own issues that neither of us are willing to spend the money to shop around.

Do I think he has some deep seeded issues around his family and childhood? Yes. I feel like I was lucky to have a basically decent family give or take some mild dysfunction, but I felt loved and was treated well. 12:13's post was interesting, because I would have said, I don't feel like I can judge him since I didn't have to deal with what he went through.

I am not perfect and I guess I see this as a minor sacrifice for a happy marriage and happy husband. Believe me he makes sacrifices too, just different. It's sort of like a white lie taken a bit far and it's not even 100% like. I don't enjoy seeing them, it's just that he gives them the impression he does enjoy their company and would see them more.[/quote]

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