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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank you for all of the thoughtful responses. I truly appreciate it. I do have some health issues, I had gestational diabetes and hypertension with turned into pre-eclampsia and a permanent injury which results in there being some days that my husband has to do the lions share of the physical caretaking of our child. He is so kind and has never complained about having to do that, but it weighs on me. He would prefer one child, and I don’t take that lightly. I also know that if it was something I wanted badly he would do it. But I don’t want to exploit that knowing that there will be times he will have to pitch in more. So I do feel like this ends up being a decision that I have to make. [/quote] I think this is the real issue. If he strongly prefers one child, and you don't want a second badly enough to be happy with either gender, that's your answer. But I will say that neither of my kids was the sex I hoped for - wanted a girl for the first and got a boy, and then since I had a boy I hoped for another boy, and got a girl - and I do not care. At all. Because at the end of the day what I really wanted was two children, no matter the sex. If you don't feel that way, then especially since your husband doesn't want a second at all, it may be time to stop and enjoy the child you have.[/quote]
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