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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kid has all the diagnoses. But there were a lot of kids like that in their social skills class. Most had ADHD but not all had diagnoses. We went to Stepping Stones at In Step in Merrifield. [/quote]

Op here. DC is in the resilience builders program at Alvord baker. It’s a good program but the effects aren’t immediate and will take time to put the skills into use. I guess the issue is that DC doesn’t require medication but is still struggling at times in social settings. Maybe dc just needs to mature? [/quote]

My DC also at Alvord baker resilience builder program, now in 4th grade. Also very, very rigid and like to enforce rules. But has made tremendous progress during this last year - 3rd grade was full of tantrums and meltdowns, several time at school, which was a social disaster.

DC has diagnosed ADHD and was medicated during this time - we tried to tweak meds but ultimately they stayed the same. DC also started individual therapy and the resilience builder.

What changed (at least from my perspective)? First of all, DC saw the negative impact of their behavior on friendships. While they didn’t fully understand how/why someone else could be behaving badly (not following rules) and then DC would get the cold shoulder when they pointed it out, DC did understand that they were getting the cold shoulder for being rigid. I worked with DC for about 4-5 months talking through walking away. I was very explicit that people saw DC as the problem when they lost their temper. By the end of the summer DC managed to stop losing their sh!y at everything.

Resilience builder and individual Therapy have worked on the same thing - rigid thinking and social skills, and DC has made HUGE progress. DC still prefers individual work or work with one other person, but can do group work without blowing up. DC can plays games at recess and be flexible, and knows when to walk away when they can’t contain their frustration. DC has bloomed (compared to last year ) socially, and plays with different groups now. From what DC tells me, the explicit instruction from their Therapist and resilience builder has given them very specific tools on what to do, and DC is able to apply.

If your DC can’t access the tools, ask the resilience builder leader what they recommend- maybe it’s more practice, maybe it’s medication, maybe it is just maturity.

Wishing you the best, this stuff is really hard. [/quote]

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