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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find it interesting how many divorced people out there, usually men, claim a divorce drove them to bankruptcy or that their wife took everything. There is always something more to the story. I’m sure there is one-in-a-thousand case where the person did everything right but their ex somehow stole everything and/or left them with the debt, but most of the time that is not the case.

My ex and I started marriage with nothing and were poor by DCUM standards. Divorced 12 years in and each took half of 500k net worth and lawyers got about 2k. A few years later our individual net worths are about as much as our combined net worth was 5 years ago before the divorce. Getting divorced is not an excuse to make dumb decisions and not save and invest. [/quote]

NP here.  Regardless, I am shocked how many second marriages have a spouse that married in that was "unaware" that the wife made/had all or most of the money and assets, and in many cases, the husband did claim bankruptcy.  I find it perplexing that more second wives do not do their homework, and marry what they think someone has - their loss, I guess. But I would expect more common sense and due diligence. Are some people only looking for appearances? At that age?? [/quote]

My ex’s AP did not take into account a good portion of our wealth and multiple homes was due to 25 years of our joint salaries. [/quote]

Well if you both had careers and were married 25 years, at least he's not paying you alimony and child support.  I don't follow what APs think they're getting when they date a man with a wife who doesn't work and young kids at home.  By the time he's through a divorced, he too may be tittering on bankruptcy like OP's current guy.

OP, I like the advice above about making it clear there will be no moving in together or marriage, everything gets split 50/50 and you'll likely be doing things he can't afford.  See how he responds.  If he's fine with it and you like his company and don't want anything serious from him, it could work for a moment.  [/quote]

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