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[quote=Anonymous]One thing that helped navigate these decisions for us was focusing on Mom's safety and Mom's wishes. We could prevent her getting sick/old/dying - but we could know that we gave her the dignity of making decisions for herself for as long as possible.

So I tried to steer away from pitched battles w/ my siblings when we disagreed and instead came at it from allowing my mother to continue to manage her life as she saw fit.

FWIW, I'm totally team Mom in your scenario. If she wants a solution with more built in support then she possibly knows she needs it. If she will feel more comfortable in AL then honor that. When someone confesses to feeling uneasy, aware of decline, etc... it's usually much worse than they're letting on (or than you want to face).

Also, managing levels of care/service/attention is HARD. It's an ongoing difficult job. Let a facility manage as much of that as possible and focus on spending time w/ your mom in ways that will drain you less and maximize the quality of the time you have with her.

GOod luck OP.[/quote]

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