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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not to be meta, but, if we are criticizing how other girls and women behave, are we any better than them?[/quote]

Don't get caught in circular logic. Pick me behavior is negative because it pits women in competition with one another for the attention and approval of men. It is a specific behavior some women engage in that perpetuates misogyny and harms other women. It's okay to criticize that, especially in a conversation among women. The goal is ultimately to encourage women to support each other and NOT compete for men in this way. It's ultimately a pro-woman conversation because it's assuming that women have value beyond simply being chosen by men.

This is substantively different than what a pick me woman does, which is subtly put down other women when she is around men, in order to make herself look good. Pick me behavior places the desires of men above everything else. They are the audience and recipient, and pick me women turn all women into auditioners.[/quote]

But that's exactly what most of these posts are doing.  Women who like stereotypically male pastimes are bad because it *must* be performative and only designed to compete with other women, and these women are not as "good" as a woman who is stereotypically feminine. There's no intention involved -- a woman behaves in any other way than the socially approved way around men, she is "subtly put[ting] down other women" and must be scorned.  
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Also, don't miss the not so subtle anti-male tone here.  A woman who appeals to men is BAD because men are oppressors and if it's something they like, it can't be natural or good.  [/quote]

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