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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He's rude but some rich people want constant proof that people aren't after their money.  Making you treat, and ordering a bizarre amount of food, while bragging about first class international flights - it all seems like a test to me.

I'd let DH say something if something has to be said, but I'd probably just suck it up.  Not because he's not rude (yes, of course he is) but because it's infrequent.  He lives across the country; call it a quirk and decide not to be bothered.[/quote]

Op here.  This is really interesting. I never thought about it as a test. We expect to inherit absolutely nothing given the longevity in DH’s family. Furthermore, we are comfortable and just fine on our two fed salaries and don’t need anything really.  I admit it would be great to fly first class but as long as I can afford to go on trips I’m ok being wedged into economy.

I am inclined to suck it up too. My FIL does not have a lot of joy in his life sadly, and if eating the pasta and the chicken makes him happy, fine I guess. I do silently feel annoyed though. I have to admit once the waiter returned when FIL was in the bathroom and just wanted to confirm FIL ordered two entrees. [b]I canceled the second entree.[/b] I lived off that small victory for the remainder of his time at my house.  :twisted: [/quote]

:lol:   great move.   What did he say???

Also, what does DH say about his father doing this to you guys?     Does he just suck it up and pick up the check every time without a word?

Does FIL eat 2 entrees, or bring one home to eat as a lunch at your house?     [/quote]

No he eats his entire appetizer by himself, then slowly eats each entree side by side. Like one bite from his pizza and one bite from his pasta. Then he will make a big fuss about how he’s too full for dessert but since it’s a special occasion he’ll get some. What really annoys me is that we don’t let our kids have dessert regularly or order personal appetizers, but it feels weird to say no when FIL happily orders some. Once I had a whole debate with my oldest about how I would not let him order something called a “monster sundae”. When the waiter came back, he reluctantly ordered a small scoop of ice cream as did his sibling. Guess what father in law ordered? The monster sundae.  I couldn’t believe it when he sat there and ate every bite in front of my son without offering him a taste or anything. And of course when the bill came, we paid because FIL hid in the bathroom.

DH is just as annoyed as I am about it. He silently seethed the whole way home from the restaurant. He brings it up about once every few weeks and then of course feels bad about it because as I said before FIL is a lonely old man.  My husband’s family dynamic growing up was one where you didn’t question your parents choices. So I understand why he hasn’t called him out on it. But it also realllllllllllly annoys me.

As for the one time when I happily canceled the second entree, FIL asked the waiter about it right away. I told him that I didn’t realize he wanted TWO entrees since the restaurant was so expensive and it would set a bad example for the kids. He looked utterly wounded (this filled me with happiness) and said he was just “thinking of them” and had “ordered it for the table”. [/quote]

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