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[quote=Anonymous]At least a year after formal separation/divorce (though I disagree with the all caps MUST DIVORCE FIRST posters). After that, it would depend on a few things:

1) How old are your kids? Are they old enough to have honest conversations about the subject? Or too young for that to be appropriate. Mine are nearly graduated from HS, and well aware that their parents are separated and divorcing. They could handle an honest talk; we have open communication about all kinds of topics. If they were preschool/early elementary, it would be different.

2) Have you talked to newpartner about whether or not they want to be involved with your family? If they do, that's going to encourage me to see if my kids are open to the idea. If my new partner isn't interested in the family aspect of my life (why are they my new partner?), I don't see a need to introduce them to my children at all. I wouldn't introduce until I'd had several conversations with my new partner, including having them meet my adult friends for further vetting, just to be sure I wasn't loveblind to obvious issues.

I'm of the mindset that kids do better when you're honest. There's not really a hard and fast timeline; a lot depends on your child(ren) and how you relate to them.[/quote]

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