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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to have a CTJ talk with both parents and siblings. Put down your boundaries. You are moving out.  You work and have a family as well. You will be availabe X hours/week only.

If siblings are not willing to take on any burdens, then here are the two choices:

1) You hire paid caregivers 
2) you sell parents home and they go to assisted living.

[b]In the meantime, you should pay yourself from your parents money for your caregiving. Even if they get paid caregivers and/or go to AL, you will still be doing all the doctor's appointments, etc. It is not fair for siblings to inherit equally while you do all the work. [/b]

signed--sole caregiver who moved parent from west coast to east coast because nearby sibling refused to do anything. Mom is in AL now, with dementia. I still spend 4-8 hours/week on care, visits, etc (and work f/t and have kids and pets; sibling is single with no kids but just not willing/able). [/quote]

I completely agree with this.   I am a sibling that lives far away (I live in the DC area and my Dad lives in CA, as does one sibling) and my sibling gets paid.    He gets $25/hr for any physical care of my dad (this is mostly driving him on errands or to appointments) plus reimbursement for gas (federal rate.)   He also takes care of some bill paying and other paperwork for my dad and gets $35/hr for that.   These are the amounts my sibling chose (I think he should get paid more, but this is what he wants.)[/quote]

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