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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly this was why I had two girls and a son. I know that even wonderful sons can abandon their parents and never visit or call. Dhs parents are lovely, he had a great childhood and doesn’t care to visit. I don’t understand it because he’s very family oriented. So moms of boys, just realize you might never see your sons again (or 2-3x a year) and it has zero to do with the DIL. [/quote]

It’s true. MILs just don’t want to face the facts that their precious sons are grown now and therefore responsible for their own actions. So it’s easier to blame the “outsider” which in this case would be the DIL then it would be to blame their actual child.

I mean in theory I get it. Who wants to admit even to themselves that their own child doesn’t care to visit or call them. Still doesn’t make it right though to place the blame on the DIL.

Also MILs we have to really look inside ourselves as well at the level of communication and visit we expect to have with our sons. What a parent might deem as not caring or abandoning might actually in reality be a normal amount of visits and communication.

I know in my marriage my husband calls his mom once a week and visits once a month. She lives about an hour away. She expects him to call her daily. Which in my mind is a lot for a grown man to be calling his mother. Most men unless they are overly attached to their mothers or suffer from momma boy syndrome aren’t calling their mothers everyday. Unless the mother is single or widowed or something like that or has health issues where a daily call is needed.[/quote]

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