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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If your DH is stating that 1 day a week he cannot do pick up [b]then appreciate the 4 other days he can[/b] and you go into work earlier on his late day or ask to work remotely to accomodate day care pick up.  Parenting and logistics is a negotiation a lot of times.  There will be lots of hills, pick the right ones to die on.[/quote]

DH doing pick up is not a favor to his wife -- it's an equal responsibility to their child. If he can't do pick up, then he needs to propose another plan that works for both of you.[/quote]

+1. OP, someone said not to die on this hill, but I think this is a hill you want to die on. I haven't seen one person acknowledge that you are shifting things around in your schedule - "I will be 100% responsible for mornings and will be moving a lot of meetings to make that possible." - but your husband is keeping his normal schedule and the one day he has a conflict he doesn't want to either do morning instead or move/not make a meeting. This a bad foot to be starting out on IMO. He's basically put all of the accommodating on you from the very start.

I know my own experience is that it does not get easier to break this pattern the longer it goes on, and I think most women would agree with me. If you don't stand up for yourself and insist on an as close to equitable split in responsibilities as possible from the start you ought to get used to being the one to always accommodate and pick up the slack.

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