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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Could she have my sympathy?  Sure - I feel bad that she was not taught to mange her money and has grown up into an irresponsible adult.   But I would not even consider investing in a house.  This is why she is bad with money - she gets bailed out.  If she cannot afford the house, she is not going to be able to afford the taxes and up keep.  You are doing her a favor by not helping her buy a house she cannot afford.

If her siblings really want to help her, they sh-had sit down with her and help her figure out a budget.  And make sure she is saving for retirement![/quote]

This was what I said as well.  Our own sad little middle class house is a bit of a money pit, so I don't see how she could keep up something like that.  She'd have almost nothing to live on after buying it, much less enough to pay for any kind of major repairs.  But when I brought it up, DH's brother got angry and said that it was her business and he wasn't going to treat her like a child and tell her what to do, and anyway, she has always loved beautiful things and she can't help it.  Yes, I know, the irony.  [/quote]

Then you smile and respond smoothly that you admire his generosity and that you think his sister is so lucky to have a brother like him. What a wonderful person! Starry eyes! Hero worship! Regrettably you and DH are not in a position to help.

If the brother wants to be a moron, let him. He can bail out his sister until he dies. [/quote]

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