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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]What do you mean by saying your marriage is a dependent marriage vs. true love? [/b]Most long-term couples have marriage 1.0, marriage 2.0, etc. TO THE SAME PERSON. It is very common for one spouse's growth to destablize a relationship, and that it not necessarily your fault and you may or may not be able to keep the marriage. But if I was your spouse, I would certainly have my defenses up if it seemed like you were viewing our past as dependent, fake, or somehow less than.  If it's been a basically good but boring marriage, he may well feel hurt as it felt real to him - providing for and protecting you and your kid the best he knew how. Even if you decide to leave or see if you can get your husband to come along the road to creating marriage 2.0, you also need to find a way to honor and appreciate the place your marriage thus far has had in your lives.  [/quote]

Agree that I'd like to know what dependent marriage vs. true love mean. What is true love, OP? I really think this is a version of midlife crisis where you are romanticizing so much--love, fun teen years, fun college years, fun sex. I'm truly sorry you had a trauma filled childhood. That's awful. But please know that most of us humans didn't have the amazing times and experiences you seem to be romanticizing. [/quote]

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