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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]By accepting the natural order of things and not thinking of death of elders as tragedy.

Children with cancer are a tragedy; people in midlife and beyond with cancer are the natural order of things. [/quote]

This. 100% this. [/quote]

I agree that elders is not a tragedy but midlife certainly is. I have teens, it would be horrible if they lost a parent.[/quote]

It is definitely sad for children to lose a parent or parents at an early age in the child’s life.

But this is the very foreseeable possible consequence we accept when we choose to postpone having children to an age that biologically we were meant to be grandparents, not parents.

One need only look at actuarial tables to understand how much higher the risk of death is in midlife and beyond. Having babies in our 40s might mean we are more financially secure and have sown more of our wild oats and are more ready for the commitment that children demand, but it also means we are far more likely to orphan our children when they are still young.

We cannot outrun biology and the natural order of things. [/quote]

It was muuuuuuuch likelier in the past that a child would be orphaned. Women had babies young, yes. But they died. All. The. Time. In childbirth, from disease. Their babies died too, routinely. So did their toddlers and children under 12. That was the state of humanity for the last 10,000 years and more. That is the actual “natural order.” Women waiting until their 40s isn’t perfect but I’d take those odds — grounded in the breathtaking medical advances of the 20th/21st century — over our foremothers’. [/quote]

Well actually while yes more women died in childbirth in the past, many more children didn’t survive early childhood so that was the pre modern medicine natural order of things. Many people didn’t even name babies until they survived a year.

But even with the wonderful advances of modern medicine, the odds of being around for your kids well into their adulthood are best if you have them in your 20s or early 30s rather than in your 40s or beyond.[/quote]

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