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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you need to develop your inner resources to comfort and soothe yourself through the stressful times you are experiencing.  It is unrealistic to expect your DH to soothe you all of the time when he has his own stresses, and this pressure likely adds to that stress and may cause him to withdraw further.  It is at least worth trying, as divorcing and being a single mom will be even more stressful.  [/quote]

This. This. This.  Accept DH the way he is.  You need to learn to sooth your stressful times yourself and build resiliency.[/quote]

OP here. This sounds right. Any advice how to do this? I try to fit in exercise/meditation/journaling, they work well when I’m just managing the usual stress of work, home, and kids. But they don’t seem to work when there’s another missile attack and my friends are sharing gruesome pictures of burned bodies that used to be moms and babies. And my company suffered several setbacks and everyone blames me and I’m all alone carrying the entire responsibility to make it against the odds. And the kids get sick right before a huge nonrefundable event. And I’m still working and caring for the kids and organizing 100% of our social lives because we’re new-ish and all the people we’ve met are happy to come to things but never invite us themselves. And I can’t scare off all these new people I’m getting to know by dumping this stress  on them.

Ok I’m done venting. My point is that I want to know how to gracefully carry all this without leaning on DH, but it’s just a lot.[/quote]

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