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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Trans woman here. Part of my family is very religious. I tried for very long time. Far longer than most people would have. I don’t regret it and some people’s family do accept them eventually but one of my parents never did and I eventually had to go no contact. After the third time where I was talking in the phone with them and they opened with a raised voice telling me they know me better than I know myself, I had to end it. [b]Every time we got together or spoke on the phone, I was destroyed for several days after. [/b]

I wouldn’t say that you have to give up and go no contact immediately but be careful how long you go for. Hopes don’t make things reality.

To the perso. That suggested your son “stay closeted until he passes”, learn a little about trans people. First off, we should be able to be ourselves. Second, if he’s on HRT, we stop passing as our assigned gender before we ever start to pass. There’s an unfortunate time period where one is visibly transgender dressed either way (and this is true for both trans males and trans females).[/quote]
I'm really sorry for your experience. But it is odd to me that you are suggesting someone else go through this immense pain instead of protecting themselves. Since you have literally btdt, it seems odd to tell others to put themselves through this knowing how painful it was. [/quote]

I’m not suggesting that at all. I’m trying to say that she be careful how long she subjects herself and her son to toxic family members. Most people don’t give up and go no contact without first coming out because it’s impossible to stop oneself from hoping it will work out. That being said, I would absolutely respect anyone’s decision to just go no contact and never even tell them why.[/quote]

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