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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am sorry, this is one of the hardest things to go through as a parent.

As posters have said, the first focus is on DD, not the boyfriend. Make sure she has the right supports coming out of this. This is serious.

Regarding her boyfriend, I would tell her you love her & anyone she chooses to be with. At this point, do not discourage the relationship. Be neutral on that, some of her distress may come from the push/pull she feels between her boyfriend & DW/DS. Encourage everyone to go neutral on that front. Be the safe space that loves her unconditionally, be open to meet BF if she wants, but don’t insist or push it. BF is just 1 part of her life. Don’t all focus on it & avoid other issues she is clearly struggling with. 
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Agree primary focus needs to be on supporting your DD and getting her to a good place mentally and physically. But I do not think you can simply ignore the effect of the BF. That would be unwise.

You don't know everything about him, and he may indeed be a fine young man who is honestly just making his way in the world. Or he may not.

Your daughter sounds like she's been a straight-arrow and falling for a "bad boy" is a distinct possibility. He may have charmed her with his sad story, and now he has become controlling (including her money?) by saying he needs help with child support, etc.  Perhaps your DD found out he has been lying to her and thus she became so upset she made a suicide attempt. Maybe he has threatened her/her job in some way. She may have felt trapped.

All I'm saying is as the days move forward, your most important message to her is that your entire family love her and are willing to help her in any way she needs it - and she should NOT be afraid or embarrassed to tell you, as your love for her is unconditional.

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