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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can relate. DD is 14. She is a doll to the world and can be straight up wrank with me. I don’t mind her venting to me. I want her to talk to me. But I do mind her reaction to anything I say in those moments: I don’t understand, I’m clueless, I’m weird, plus lots of eye rolling and looks of contempt to round it all out. Plus, I too feel incredibly stressed and worried when she’s unhappy. I can’t help it. I have always soaked up the emotions of others and experiencing that with my own teenaged dd has been some superhuman, supersonic, nuclear empath level shit that sometimes feels like it will kill me. [/quote]

I hear the OP and I hear you especially, PP, as a fellow empath.
Sometimes I feel like a stereotypical man who thinks I am supposed to fix her problems - and I think she thinks it, too.

I don't have a solution but one thing that helps me is to ask myself (and her) if she is mad at me, or mad at the situation? (Is it personal or not). I think that may help her clarify for herself sometimes. If she is just venting and mad at the world, I can validate her emotions which sometimes means the complaining stops earlier.

Also my therapist told me to really try to be aware of the senses that are going on at that moment (what is the texture on her shirt, what do I hear, things I smell)> I am not sure why but it sort of works to remove myself from the situation ironically.[/quote]

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