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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can’t really picture what you are talking about here.  
It sounds to me like you are regularly (perpetually?) being hurtful to your spouse in a way that you feel is minor, and potentially majorly hurtful 10 years ago, and you don’t like that they are upset about it.

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I can.

OP F’s up.

Spouse asks what happens.

OP is silent or starts mounting a personal attack on spouse, either escalates the situation.

Spouse falls for the bait and both asks what happened again and starts defending against the personal attacks.

OP starts an all out argument and throws out accusations, feigns being a victim. Original F up is buried.

OP storms and stonewalls off.

Spouse sits there in a daze, and starts cleaning up the original F up mess Op made.

Next day.

OP F’s up again.

Spouse asks what happened.

OP’s DARVO ensues, escalation, personal attacks, storms off.

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Projecting much? Sounds like a script from someone's own life, but you can't know it's what OP is doing. So the source must be much, much closer to home. I'm sorry if you've endured this sucky pattern, PP, but this is the very definition of projection onto an OP's situation about which you know no more than she's actually said here. [/quote]

It’s one of a handful of scenarios it could be, all of which are “projections”.

The OP post actually says very little; let’s see if OP answers any of the helpful questions posted. [/quote]

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