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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]One thing that i have noticed when a family member is doing better than others is a low vibe of superiority. (In some people it is in your face.) For the family member who is not intentionally trying to be superior, the vibe is due to relief that they are doing so well. But it comes off as I was smarter than you about how I have lived my life.

And the people on the receiving end of the low vibe of superiority are overly sensitive to it because they hate not being as successful.

OP, I definitely get the vibe from you as you clearly judge your sister and judge your parents for helping her and not giving you major strokes for succeeding.
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Vibe?  I think this most only exist in toxic families.  Truly the parents should be openly proud of OPs success AND should help the less successful child.  The less successful child should be valued for her genuine gifts (kindness, openness, humor, creativity, intelligence, whatever she brings to the family).  Everyone should have an equal position in the family and be valued as such.

I also understand OPs need for parental approval.  Isn't that biologically ingrained in us?

Weirdos here might think you can forego evolution and biology, but I think the cost of not recognizing this might be mental health.[/quote]

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