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Men will take action first, file the papers. But they have not thought about the loss yet. They have not gone through the emotions yet. That comes to them later, during the proceedings. Then it’s a decision to reconcile rather than put themselves through the hard process of going through the stages of loss and grief. 
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Wrong. It's thinking about the loss that makes men hesitate to file the papers. Plus the agonizing dilemma of "can I endure years or decades more unhappiness and disrespect for the sake of the children or should I get out of this now?"[/quote]
No no no

They aren’t thinking or planning jack.

They are only thinking about themselves and how happy they will be living with no pesky kid, house or wife responsibilities.

But they’re busy. Busy working, busy watching tv, busy being difficult at home. Hopefully if they act like an ahole their wife will handle all the divorce logistics and he can just move out closer to the office or food joints, and take the kiddos to a fun dinner every Wednesday and fun outings every other weekend.

So he waits, checks out some more, throws down more insults at home. Why isn’t his wife doing the the paperwork and sending over the divorce terms already? So he keeps waiting, being more rude at any comment or question or request or communication from her.

Ugh, when is she going to file for divorce!? This passive aggressive thing has worked so well for 10-15 years for all those other tasks he didn’t want to do or plan or figure out or remember.

Time goes by, time goes by.

Wife sees right through him. He can’t plan. He can’t verbally communicate much to a lawyer. He can take the time to figure anything out. And he certainly is t thinking about child support or custody arrangements or kids activities or school.  He never has and never will.

Time goes by time goes by. [/quote]

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