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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]But my kids weren't a breath away from an anxiety disorder and are happy people. I think that's worth more than going to a higher-ranked college.[/quote]

OP here.  I don’t think that was the choice.  My kids were probably going to be happy either way.

The realization that I have come to is that I traded opportunities to improve my kids chances for easier weekends and less hectic weeknights.

At the time I didn’t realize that’s what I was doing - but that’s what I did.

If we had pushed math more would they have had a better chance at UVA and Michigan- almost certainly.

If we had done travel sports I don’t know if they would have played in college but they would’ve almost certainly made the highschool baseball team.

In the plus side I did have a lot more in the 529s than I would have if I pursued additional opportunities.

What gets me is I thought we were already doing a lot. We sat with them while they did their homework., they were always on a team I even coached a couple of their  teams early on.

For the posters, who were saying that life’s a marathon, and not a sprint. I think you’re missing the point.  A parent’s  strategy is open as many doors as possible.  It’s up to them to choose the door.  I think the net results of not pushing harder in sports and academically was there fewer doors for them to go through[/quote]

This is why I persist despite my working /middle class white husband thinking I may be tiger momming it. It is up to us to keep doors open and also nurture their interests. At 7, they have no idea what their passion is, no idea what they will good at when they are 16, so you let them do lots of things and also lean hard into things you know have payoff long term, like math. [/quote]

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