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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I complain or discuss negative aspects of my life more than others. I asked my therapist about it. She saw no issue. She says I grew up in an east coast culture that does it more.[b] I was living and interacting with more western-US people who don’t[/b].

I told her I think my culture does it more because ‘that’s the interesting stuff.’ So I have a good life, so I want to talk about the stuff that isn’t. That’s where there’s interest and nuance and questions to mull over with other people.

I wish others would do it more. [/quote]

This really rings true for me, as the opposite type. I'm from the western US and really don't like to be around negative talk. I think positive things are Interesting: a neat building I saw, a good hike, a funny story. I can tell that my negative friends see the negativity as bonding or an invitation to share similar worries. But it often has a cynical or fatalist edge (like, what could you expect?) that grates on me. [/quote]

This is absolutely true.  The ILs are from the mid west part of the U.S., and it was beat into them (figuratively, of course) not to complain, or speak their mind, that all is rainbows and sunshine (again, figuratively, of course - but that is another difference). I feel bad for them, because it internalizes and they have many physical ailments because of it.

If you come from a repressed, dour, flat affect background, you think it is normal. If one voices one's opinion, it is seen as "complaining" - even though it is not complaining, in real life. It seems that some people hear certain things as complaints, even though it is not.  OP, your behavior can be seen as over scrutinizing what others are saying, to the point of being hypercritical, and looking for fault.  So, you are in fact complaining, OP.  See how that works?[/quote]

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