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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I work in a toxic federal agency. My immediate supervisor appears to like me but his boss (a woman), clearly hates me. Examples:

1) She will come to work, walk down the hallways, say good morning to everyone but me.

2) Every time she communicates with me in writing or in person, it is dripping with contempt or sarcasm.

3) She especially likes to try and undercut me or humiliate me in meetings.

I’ve only been here 6 months. The office skews young and professionally, I am much more experienced than my co-workers by about 10 years. However I don’t boast or brag about my skills, am very low key, a team player, volunteer for additional work all of the time and have had the most wins/successes of my colleagues on some very big projects. However, she never compliments or congratulates me.

My immediate supervisor appears to like me but when his boss lobs jabs at me or is rude or condescending to me in meetings, he does not step in or speak up in my defense. That said, he has indicated that he wants to “protect me” from her and has tried to assure me that he has warded off other instances when she has wanted to come after me.

I have never had this happen at any job (am in mid 40’s). Even my toughest bosses have been professional and polite and expressed appreciation for my work.

Not really sure what to do here. [/quote]

OMG, start job searching today!!
I was you a few years back, and the situation was intolerable. It was my boss who had an irrational hatred of me. I think she recognized that I had much better skills than she, but I am not manipulative, nor am I particularly good at office politics. She saw me as a threat, and had to crush me. She did everything she could to destroy me (and I mean that quite literally). I think she would have killed me if she'd been given the opportunity. I wasn't the only woman she targeted (she felt threatened only by women), but she seemed to have the most vitriol for me. 
I had no one to protect me, so I found a job as fast as I could. She was furious when I resigned. She was so vicious, I think she was looking forward to firing me in the most cruel way possible. I think she was mentally ill, a narcissist or sociopath. She drove out a few other women whom she saw as threats, so I wasn't alone, but it was a horrible situation. At least I found another job relatively quickly, and you should too, OP. GET OUT NOW. [/quote]

This is OP. Your description sounds JUST like her.[/quote]

If she is that bad, try to gray rock as much as possible. Do not react, do not even notice these things. Make no waves, don’t do anything that would call attention to yourself (no extra projects). Just survive and get out. It might also be helpful to read up/view videos on dealing with narcissists and sociopaths. Good luck and stay safe.[/quote]

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