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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]hearing about something we are going through[/quote]

Many in previous generations aren't as comfortable with emotional talk. They actually are being polite in not telling you that they think whatever you're "going through" is exaggerated. Unless it's death. Or job loss.

To get your fair-share of conversation, interrupt if you have to. "Mom I need to now tell you what we've been doing." Parents would understand: you talk -now-  I talk. Maybe don't expect them to remember details you mention. If you raise problems, angst, things you are wrestling-with that turns them off. They can't help or solve it for you and it's more emotion than they are use to. If you are having problems with the relationship with them it may be that what you think you need is a friend to help you solve problems, or build you out. That is not what they are going to do (again, if they haven't had this type of relationship with you before ..and they aren't having it with anyone)
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Oh my!  PP, I wish I could reach out to you for more insights like this.  I think you nailed it, still difficult for me to understand how anyone can feel/behave/think that way, but at least you described how those people think, it is what it is.  Can you possibly have a close relationship with those type of older generation?  Can you feel emotionally close and supported?  Or should you just accept them as who they are, stop expecting them to listen to your concerns or pay attention to your emotional needs, just keep emotional distance with them and move on?  [/quote]

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