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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Most trig students are sophomores, juniors, or seniors - if your teen falls into this age group, you need to start pulling back so they can develop the independence they’ll need for college. Helping with a tough assignment here & there is part of parenting, but if you are pulling HW support duty on a weekly basis for a high schooler, you need to pull back so they can grow. If DC is struggling & needs personalized support, hire a tutor - and so that may take precedence over the new activity they want to do. If DC is not truly struggling but has just gotten reliant on you correcting their HW, it is time to gently remove yourself & assure them that they have the skills & abilities to handle this on their own. 
This will be good for you & them, truly.

I don’t know how old your kids are, but I sense that you are a great mother who has done a lot for them - now is the time to let them try out handling more on their own. Definitely with the HW, they need to develop those skills to make it in college. They are not goi g to do this by themselves, you need to push them to be resilient.

And do t feel bad about the play dates for younger - 1 is great. [/quote]

Bad advice.  Always help your kids with homework.[/quote]

Eh,  I mean I agree in theory but a lot of us can’t help with trig because we can’t do it! I’m in a somewhat similar situation at the moment with an aging parent and teens so I feel for OP. If you can throw $$$ at the problem, by getting the parents help or getting the teen a tutor I would definitely recommend it. It doesn’t mean you don’t help with trig if you can but maybe with a tutor the teen won’t need as much help.

I think the new activity really depends on what it is and how important. People with younger kids may not appreciate this but activities for teens can be a big deal, including for college and such so I might try to make it work but it would be activity specific, like something that builds off of an existing activity and you understand why it’s important. The play date thing I’m not as clear on - how old are the kids and how does that impact you?

But overall I hear you because I’m in the midst of this as well. I haven’t had to ask my kids to forego anything (older teens) but my life is pretty much total drudgery between parent, work and home tasks. Im trying to build in small moments of enjoyment into my day.[/quote]

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