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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1) your house doesn’t need to be clean all the time
2) stop being home all the time. Why are you there with teens, they don’t need a babysitter. Go to dinner, go to the gym, do a hobby, learn and art. 
3) make dinner 3x a week and buy sandwich makings. Nobody needs to cook dinner every night. Cooking isn’t necessary. Make a habit of saying “your own your own for dinner tonight”, “we are having leftovers for dinner tonight”

You have a vision of what a good mom is, it’s wrong. Readjust your life.

You should spend 1/4 of you life on work, 1/4 on family,1/4 on community, and 1/4 on yourself . Most overlap in some way like your job overlaps community, etc.

You’ve lost yourself. Spend the year finding yourself again.[/quote]

I don't know about you, but I work 8-5. I'm tired after work. My house isn't spotless since I can't clean all the time because I work. Just chores and work takes up a lot of my life. Then kids because I am not leaving the house to avoid them when they are actually home![/quote]
I hear you PP.  Working full time and raising a family are tough.  But honestly, with teens, your life should be getting EASIER not harder (at least wrt labor).  Do you do anything for yourself?  Book group with neighborhood parents?  An exercise class or hobby class that you find enjoyable?  Taking a neighborhood walk with your spouse a few times a week?  You HAVE to have something other than work and kids in your life.  And yes, I am typically spent after my high-stress 8-6 workday and dealing with making sure people are where they need to be, food is available for dinners/lunches, etc... But I no longer handle anyone's laundry but my own, kids make their own lunches or buy at school, I let my husband take the lead on one of the kids' major activities, I've lowered my standards on what qualifies as "clean enough", I cook enough food to have at least 1 day of leftovers, I have a dedicated 1x week exercise class and I do semi-regular girls nights with neighborhood moms.[/quote]

It just sounds exhausting to me. I had one weekly activity I had to stop because it was causing so much stress (transportation issues mostly with two cars and four drivers). I guess everything sounds like too much aside from the walks I do sometimes, like everything added on is an extra chore.[/quote]

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