Reply to s/o introverts at large family get togethers

Forum Index » Off-Topic

Reply to "s/o introverts at large family get togethers"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]18:59 - THANK YOU!   #3 especially :)

DH and I have no need for a "free" vacation - simply because its not free!  There seems a cost that is dear and  intangible. In addition, our vacation time is precious.  The ILs idea of vacation is polar opposite of DH and our family.

I come from a loud extended family and DH's family is quiet, not extended, and very passive aggressive, arbitrary and controlling (certain family members will admit this and have purposely physically relocated from it; others will feign ignorance).  I grew up being told not to trust quiet people.  Which sounds absurd - until you are around too many quiet people as a non-quiet person.

Our families are opposite, and I seem to have accepted this.  DHs families "getting to know me" was extremely long, drawn out and judgmental.  Any inquiries were rather nosy and judgmental, and it just steamrolled from there. Not to mention how they have treated DH after all he has done for them.

So, part of it is about personality and maturity level of those involved.  Not saying one thing and treating others another way, but being able to accept those who are different and not being threatened by it - being a truly good person not just claiming to be a good person. Some of it is the degree of how introverted/extroverted one or more parties are.

But in my experience, most of it is how accepting someone is and having the type of personalities that do NOT take everything personally!   [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics