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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Against medical advice" is a phrase everyone needs to know. When declining treatment, any treatment. Hospitals/Doctors need to hear it so they are not held liable. Although not essential, it's helpful to have a strong showing of family, in person or by phone, so the doctors get the assurance that this is a family decision. They are always guarding against the crazy one relative that might cause problems for them.[/quote]

If there’s a doctor at the memory care, you may want to get to know them. When my 89-year-old father experienced life threatening blood pressure drop after 18 months in skilled nursing with complete delirium, my sister, who was the POA,  wanted him transported to the hospital for a transfusion. The nursing home doctor called me to see
If I could talk sense into her, saying “you know, many families would choose to keep someone like this comfortable where they are.” I talked her in to doing what was right and he died 24 hours later. While making his final arrangements, I was presented with his DNR, which also clearly stated no transfusions. POA sister couldn’t even be responsible enough to abide his wishes. Does your mom have an advanced directive? Does she really want these repeated hospital stays? It’s easy for adults to keep their parents alive longer than they should out of a sense of duty and guilt.[/quote]

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