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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow. I’m starting to wonder….do I fall under the “I had no idea not everyone lives like this” column?! I honestly can’t tell what is because our life is crazy/busy, and what could be because of something like this. Hm. Reading some of these is eye-opening…!

Gut check: would you guys say it’s normal / not an ADHD thing for us to constantly be struggling with mess / clutter / disorganization? I assumed that was just ….life with young kids, but can never figure out why other people’s cars aren’t insane and mine always is[/quote]

I would say it's normal when any of your kids are under age 5, if both parents work or you're a single parent. But after that you should be able to pull things together.

Different people mean different things when they say "struggling with mess". Some people are bothered when their house is less than completely tidy. Others are bothered when they can no longer see the floor. So it's hard to say.

Non-ADHD people are able to look at their schedule as a whole, and plan their time including discontinuing activities if the total schedule is unmanageable. They can make that decision looking at the semester as a whole, and then they implement the decision. They're also able to accurately predict how long chores will take, and that's a big help in getting the chores done.  ADHD people have a hard time with those ways of seeing life.[/quote]

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