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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How do I continue?  Honestly, I worry about this.  But the answer is that she is great in other ways and even the sex is sometimes very good.

She always seems to love the sex.  She gets very aroused.  I like that.  She also tries hard to please me.  I like that too.  Post sex, she likes to fall asleep with her arm around me.  She makes sure our bodies are touching all night.  So the emotional part of sexual attraction is strong.

Separate from the sex, we enjoy our time together. Our conversations are great.  She's attentive and appreciative.  I respect her and she respects me.

Will it last?  I don't know.  I'm hoping that I will feel more attraction over time as we get closer to each other. It will be a different kind of attraction from pure lust.  More like warmth and positive associations.

I don't have trouble meeting women and there are a few who seemed interested who are also more attractive.  I turned them down because we aren't as compatible in other ways.

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How do you have sex if you are not attracted? This is what I struggle with getting past. If I had the option of someone I was attracted to I would leave. [/quote]

I'm somewhat attracted to her.  I focus on the parts of her that I like most. I really like her eyes and some other physical things about her.

If we start fooling around, she gets very turned on. Her response is usually very strong and that usually turns me on. I give it time. Sex with her starts out more slowly than with other women and I can't always finish, which rarely happened in prior relationships.  I still like it.  It makes me feel close to her and I like a lot of it physically. Obviously I'm frustrated when I don't finish.

Some people probably think I have my priorities right.  Other people would say I am an awful person because I am getting more attached to a woman, and letting her get more attached to me, even though the chemistry isn't all that great.

She knows that I have had other girlfriends who were more beautiful and she's glad I chose her. She still might be sad if she knew I wrote all of this.       [/quote]

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