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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm so sorry OP.

in her last couple of months of life my mother made several decisions to pursue every single possible treatment, including surgeries, to prolong her life and deny what was happening.

It was incredibly hard to watch, help manage, live through, react to (as she was on the rollercoaster of care/crisis/recovery constantly) etc.  There were a couple of things that helped me get through it. I had to remind myself regularly that fundamentally she was an adult and I couldn't control her. She was going to make her own choices and I couldn't overrule them. Sometimes I could influence a doctor, or provider, or delay release from a care facility, but that was it. I couldn't control her decision making any more than she could control mine in my adult life.

Secondly, at least I knew I was honoring her wishes. Even if I disagreed with them, thought they were dumb, whatever - when I couldn't change her mind I helped honor her wishes. It didn't change any outcomes but it did give me a framework to find more peace in the moment, and after she was gone.

It sounds like, no matter what happens, this probably won't be a terribly prolonged period of time you're in.  My sympathies and best wishes to you.[/quote]

OP and thanks. I needed to read this. Very comforting.[/quote]

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