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[quote=Anonymous]Okay, deep breaths. It sounds like he is having trouble with emotional regulation. It does not sound like an emergency and something that is indicative of him failing as an adult and never being a well-adjusted human being. He's 8.

He sounds a lot like my kid when he was 9, only it was much worse than this and was starting to become physically scary. He also has AuDHD and was diagnosed with ODD at the time (due to the rages). I think it all goes together with executive function and emotional regulation and probably also (in our case) anxiety.

Part of what has helped us is to calm down and stop seeing it all as an emergency. Our own emotions were ramping things up more. Sometimes he may need to be given more space to cope - our DS tends to get overwhelmed when people try to help when he is stressed.

We did the Unstuck & On Target program, which helped a bit with flexibility and having some different ways to describe and talk about things, but in these moments, I don't think he is able to think rationally. You need to wait for a time later to have the rational discussion.

Ours also gaslights, and I also think sometimes it is a way to manage the discomfort with what he did. He cannot handle thinking of himself as "bad." Thus, it has helped us a lot to take our judgment. We work hard not to have any consequences or reactions tinged with shame or judgment in reaction to his behavior. He already knows it isn't appropriate. If he is gaslighting later, I would just let it go. Don't get into a battle about whether he did or didn't, but talk about how a person could handle situations like that (theoretically). You don't want to make that a power struggle.

A therapist may also help. It has helped for us. I would also look at whether there are increasing stressors at school. He might be saving up stress from there and exploding at home. Maybe more together time, more physical time, and more sports/physical activity would be good to look into.

I'm sort of "meh" on the food part. Yes, better eating is helpful, but sometimes it's hard to get kids like this to do that. Mine is very resistant and has sensory issues. I certainly don't think this is caused by food, as some PPs have said. It's part of the puzzle but not the full answer.[/quote]

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