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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Elderly parent moved out two years ago. If we don’t sell house by a certain point, it will be expensive taxwise for the elderly parent with dementia.

Hoarder sibling has filled several of their own houses and a storage unit with junk and is in no hurry to empty the stuff they want (most everything) from the house.

While I can stand firm and say I will call the junk haulers by a certain date, I will definitely be screamed at and [b]hoarder[/b] sibling will tell their family I’m a horrible person.

Any advice for getting this house cleared out and sold?

One idea I had is to rent a storage unit and pay to have all the crud the hoarder wants moved to that location.

I can’t make them hire a moving company.

I am pretty sure they lie when they say the take trash from our clearing out process and throw it away at home. Hoarder has fought me over a trash bag filled with trash.

I DO NOT want to end up as a co-owner on a house with the hoarder. If I do, can I make them sell the house??

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Dear OP, I don't have time to read all of the comments but we had a very stressful similar incident in our family.  My parents were hoarders.  They lived in fear of County Services being called.  We never did that, although it was discussed.  Whatever adult child did that (call in help)  would be tossed out of the will.  Then, one parent fell outside and was unobserved by anyone but the other parent who had dementia.  The primarily hoarding parent wouldn't allow the other parent to call because the condition of the house would be discovered.  Fortunately, a neighbor found them and called. County services DID then get involved because of their condition at the hospital and they were sent to a nursing home until all of the work on the house could be done and the County inspected (mold, water damage, filth).  that was a blessing.  It was extremely painful for everyone involved.  So if you can somehow get an outside party to investigate (Police will do a "wellness check"), do it, but bear in mind the parents can usually figure out who made the call - and that was the problem in our situation.  Check with your local county's offices. Today, most counties have divisions that deal with this kind of problem[/quote]

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