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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] I’d get her the surgery. A long recovery is minimal compared to being bed ridden the rest of her life.[/quote]

How is anything but this the answer. [/quote]

Not OP, but I know 2 people who had back surgery under the age of 50 and it did not go well. One is more disabled and the other needing several more back surgeries and didn't think it was worth it. Also, I have been through an elderly parent having a much more minor surgery and the decline from anesthesia was alarming and lasted.

I assume she is cognitively 100%. If so, this needs to be her decision. If it were me at that age, I would go for comfort with meds and would not treat any illnesses that come my way. I have been managing elder care with parents and inlaws for too long and see that the decline can be beyond miserable and you can do in your family with needs.

If she is not cognitively capable of the decision, that is rough. I would talk to as many experts and people with loved ones who needed surgery at that age as possible.

If she gets the surgery, I would make sure she has a rehabilitation facility lined up. It is a tough recovery for someone younger and if she declines cognitively after she needs the proper level of care.[/quote]

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