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[quote=Anonymous]I agree your son was rude, and your FIL is generous. He was deservedly reprimanded.

However, I don’t think you should expect your son to be as grateful for the 529 as you are. He is right: he didn’t ask for the 529, and it’s probably not something he cares about. In my view, a gift giver should think about what the recipient wants—not just what the recipient SHOULD want. As an adult, I understand that college tuition is more valuable than a squishmallow, but it wouldn’t make it a better birthday gift.

Imagine that you were wealthy and able to self-fund college without any debt. If you then told your child—I am not giving you any presents for Christmas or birthday, because I am paying for your college tuition instead—it wouldn’t surprise me if your child felt hurt.

So if I were speaking to your son, I would say he should apologize and be grateful. Nobody is entitled to any particular gift. But if I were speaking to your FIL, I would say he should consider getting your kids actual presents in addition to, or instead of, paying for college.  [/quote]

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