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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH is responsible for grocery shopping on Monday evening. I am responsible for drop off/pick up 2 kids and taking them to classes. DH cooks once a week, and I try to cook 2 times a week for dinner. We spend too much money on carry outs. I try to do laundry on weekend, one load for kids, and one load for us. No one really clean the house, and I mean kids don't clean up after themselves because they will play next day. We pay someone to take care of mowing lawn. There has been no snow, no need to shovel in dmv area. If we need car repair/maintenance, we pay someone.

I really need someone to clean the house. We don't want other people to come in to do this job for privacy reasons. I feel bad that my mom offers to help me to clean and cook for us daily once she retires in a few months. She is 65. I can 't let her do that. I need house cleaning 101, how often and how long does it take should kitchen be cleaned, refrigerator be cleaned, bed sheet washed, hardwood floor mopped, carpet floor vaccumed, furnitures to be wiped, etc.. once I figure it out, I will assign some tasks to DH to do. I am not good at house cleaning and I hate it so much. However, we need to make it work. [/quote]

Does your mom really want to help with housecleaning? Because if she does, you should let her. Retirement kills people who don't stay active, and housecleaning is a terrific way to stay physically fit if you are doing it correctly. Unless she has other plans to move her body and stay physically fit in retirement, working as your housekeeper could be a great means to keep her from the typical sedentary existence in retirement that shortens so many lives. You should, of course, pay her the same you would pay a stranger - that solves the issue of privacy and will also give her more opportunities to grandma your kids.[/quote]

This is really true! I don’t think it’d work for every family because it takes communication and expectation setting to make sure mom isn’t being taken advantage of and family isn’t feeling intruded upon. But my incredibly long lived Grandma (103 and counting) was always an insatiable house cleaning machine and it kept her very mobile. She would clean her entire house then come over to my parents and beg to fold their laundry and sweep. Lol. I practically never saw her without a laundry basket. She really would not have had it any other way. It was like this until well into her 90s. Now, in her mid and late 90s she slowed down considerably and is more sedentary but even now she still walks (with a walker) and qualifies for assisted living which is excellent at her age.

I think if you go this route you need to set time limits like try it 6 months and reevaluate and you need to either offer to pay her or agree to take her on some nice vacations. We never paid my grandma but my parents have done other things like manage finances, properties etc etc [/quote]

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