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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I doubt I'm the only person or the only guy in the world that's always had a lifelong hatred or resentment towards this. Guys always being expected to make the first move and ask the girl out, be the initiators,or they say, men court women, etc.

What is the origin behind that you think?

It's probably the main thing or the number one thing I've always hated about being born the male gender, it's like why can't women go after men too right?

There are other things I resent about it to but I don't want to get too much deep into it but I might answer it as I reply to comments.

When people say "that's the way it is", makes me more mad and angry and only adds fuel to fire towards my resentment.

Some people say it's not always like this, and that the world is slowly changing about this.

But I mostly doubt and part of me thinks that it'll be this way for all eternity.
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On the one hand, making the first explicit move carries with it the risk of painful rejection, which sucks.  On the other hand, if you have any degree of subtlety or perception, women often send signals that can verge on screaming at you if you are paying attention and aren’t hung up on explicit statements of interest, which in general women don’t seem to like making.  (It can be easier to see this when it’s not you—“kiss her, you fool” is a trope for a reason.) I would see this through the lens of differences in communication styles more than anything else.  But yes, there comes a point where the man is generally expected to take the risk associated with making things more explicit.  Suck it up.  While rejection hurts, it is often not personal and there are other fish in the sea.[/quote]

I know I'm in good company in which I have this mindset and that is women normally never risk having their social awkwardness or social ineptness be dismissed or be perceived as weird or creepy or threatening when interacting with the other sex so in some ways if women made advances on men their advances will never be perceived as weird or creepy or dangerous[/quote]

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