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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If he's not telling you because of the way you grew up, would you 1000% accept him if he was? Does he know that you're fine with it? Like have you discussed it politically or mention gay friends you have etc? If he is and he's going to tell you he needs to know he is completely safe in telling you. [/quote]

Op here. We were brought up religious so there's that.

I would 100000% accept him and it wouldn't change anything. It's not a huge deal just would connect some dots, I guess I'll continue minding my business or make more of a safe space in the future if he wanted to share. Thanks![/quote]

NP here. If you think there is a chance he’s not telling you because your upbringing is having an effect on him coming to terms with coming out, I would encourage you to give him an opening without directly asking and putting him on the spot.

Like bring up a celebrity or someone you know from childhood who has come out and say how great it is that things have changed since you guys were kids and people are free to come out. Or just some sort of pro LGBTQ acknowledgement. Maybe even make up a fake “coworker” who recently came out to a family member. Something to put it in his radar that you are totally accepting.

I have a friend who grew up in a really conservative household who has suspected from a young age her brother is gay. He finally came out to her and she is keeping the secret from her parents who would not handle it well. But she is glad she can be a source of familial support for him. [/quote]

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