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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was also a 50/50 kid and did 7/7. But after a while I got sick of being shuffled back and forth and started doing 14/14. As your child gets older she may assert a preference to spend less time packing and unpacking. [/quote]

I'm the PP who does 2/2/5. My dc desires to see both of us often and does not want 7/7 at this time. I just wanted to point out that it's not hard to make it so dc does NOT have to pack/unpack all the time. We literally exchange any meds (if any) and the charger cord for the gizmo watch and the Ipad (if dc had a locking locker I'd let them take it to school but they dont). Dc has their school backpack which they would carry regardless of our marital status. Dc has everything they need at both homes because they live there and does not 'pack' anything.[/quote]

[b]That's fine for little kids, but for older kids it's a lot different[/b]. They care what they wear, they may have all their sports stuff, and electronics, and school assignments. You can't duplicate everything, or it's too expensive, and some things like half-done schoolwork are truly one-of-a-kind.

For me it was also just the disruptive feeling of the transition. I never felt settled in any one place and could never truly unpack because I knew I'd have to pack up again. I felt like an object being moved around. I really resented the time spent in transit as well. If parents are too invested in the "my divorce has not burdened my child at all" way of thinking, that's unrealistic and prevents them from empathizing.[/quote]

The OP was asking about a schedule for a 7 yo.[/quote]

She won't be 7 forever. It's best to plan for your child to grow.[/quote]

The dc is 7 NOW. The schedule best for dc NOW is important, with the possibility of change in the future. Or not, if it's working for dc and they are happy with it.[/quote]

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