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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I grew up on Long Island. Went to college in the city and lived there for a decade before moving back to the suburbs. I left the city before I had my first kid- I didn’t want to raise kids in a cramped apartment, ultra competitive private schools, [b]and an even more warped perspective of wealth.  [/b]

If you love living in the city, you might not like the suburbs. The commute is hard, and particularly annoying with kids. But we prefer having the space and it being slightly lower key. We go into the city fairly often for restaurants, museums and events.[/quote]

This cannot be overstated. I have a NYC private school friend who was embarrassed by their +/- 8 million UES townhouse because their friend group all lived in 40+ million dollar places. Seriously twisted. If you're like general Big Law wealthy expect this insecurity and "woe is me, we are poor!" attitude to be magnified. It's a really warped perspective and hard to fight if you're running in or around these circles, which you will be if you're doing private.  [/quote]

Pp here. This is exactly right. My father is a retired big law partner and I actually grew up in a suburb of Long Island where very wealthy “city people” summered. I was friendly with the kids and went to day camp and then sleepaway together. I cannot emphasize how different big law wealth is to NYC ultra-wealth lifestyle. It’s completely not normal and I just wouldn’t opt in to raising my kids -or living myself- in that stratosphere of wealth unless we were incredibly wealthy.

At a bare minimum, for me personally, it would take a decent apartment and a weekend home outside the city to make it bearable. The city is teeming with people everywhere and as I grew out of my twenties, I found it very stressful. [/quote]

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